“Sunny” – What would a Health Blog be without some uplifting, inspirational anecdotes and mantras?
“There is no ‘other’ world / I only know what I’ve experienced / You must be hallucinating”
~Persian Poet circa 1200 AD
Strange selection for a “sunny” quote of inspiration you may be thinking…
Well, yes, it is different, but like most one-liners that have withstood the test of time, this one is chock full of truth from first letter to last.
When was the last time you had a disagreement with someone?
If you could boil down that disagreement to its most base self – the issue would be that the two of you have different opinions on the scenario at hand. How does this happen? Especially with friends or family members we have lived large parts of our lives with?
Seems crazy, right? As a matter of fact, this creates a second layer of frustration to the disagreement because you are often additionally upset that the other person CAN’T see what you see – “How could you possibly have thought this was okay??”
At the end of the day, we are all more biologically similar than different BUT when it comes to life experiences and our interpretation of those experiences, we could not be further apart.
Keep this in mind: Even two people surviving the same trauma, attending the same film, or looking at the same piece of art will walk away with entirely different accounts of what they saw, felt, and ultimately believed.
The next time you feel yourself getting upset with someone – remember – they are seeing the world through their lens and you are seeing the world through your lens. One lens is not better than the other. You are simply biased to yours because it is yours. Be mindful that the other person is biased to their own as well.
Before committing to being angry, make an effort to ask questions about how and why they see, taste, touch, hear, and feel what they do. Chances are they think you are hallucinating too.
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