W.O.W. SUNNY SUNDAY 09/20/15

“Sunny” – What would a Health Blog be without some uplifting, inspirational anecdotes and mantras?

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“The other shows us ourselves in a forgotten light, as someone less dull than we thought we had become. We look at each other and we love ourselves”

 -Anonymous

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Do you know someone like this ?

Someone who reflects back to you the person you wish to see?

Someone who reminds you of what it means to be alive?

Not just ‘living’, but truly alive?

Do you have someone in your life for whom YOU are this person?

Someone to whom you give life?

Someone to whom you validate worth and purpose?

Take stock of the people with whom you spend your time…

Do they fit in this category for you – or you for them?

Do you wish they did?

Or, perhaps, you prefer it the way it is – connected enough…but not too close?

These are not questions anyone else can answer.

Nor, are they questions, which you can afford to not answer.

I challenge  you to take time this Sunday. And sit with these questions…

Love them.

Hate them.

Rejoice in them.

Cry for them.

But be present with them.

You get but one turn on the Carousel of Life, you owe it to yourself and whoever or whatever you believe in, to love yourself and to surround yourself with those you love.

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W.O.W. – THERAPEUTIC THURSDAY 08/13/15

“Therapeutic” – Gain insight into your Actions [sometimes called ‘behaviors’] and how they may be functioning as a direct result of Thoughts and Feelings

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Have you ever had a difficult decision to make and made a Pro-Con list to try and help you?

Theoretically, this makes sense. As human beings we are drawn towards people and situations that  help us survive and thrive – the proverbial “Pros”.

This Therapeutic Thursday, I would like you to consider looking outside the standard Pro-Con box the next time you have a decision, big or small, to make.

The reason here is not because the Pro-Con list is inherently wrong or bad, but rather, because it is incomplete.

A Pro-Con list by its very nature is biased and short-sighted:

Biased: we filter future expectations of positive and negative things on our past and present experience of them; regardless of the truth of these things

Short-sighted: it is not feasible for us to know certainly every good and bad thing that will come of a decision we make because our decisions – even the smallest ones – are connected by little gossamer threads to dozens of other people and scenarios. Some of which we may be aware of; some of which we may not. This is both the beauty and the bane of our life as social creatures.

All of this being said, we know that there is evidence supporting the fact that the best indicator of future behavior has always been and will always be, past behavior [just look at the History books] but when it comes to individual human decision making, when we subscribe fully to this, we run the risk of short-changing ourselves.

For most of us, we don’t know how incredible we can be, or what sort of challenges we can rise to until we are challenged with them. And, most of us, would NEVER have chosen to go through some of the pain and heartache we have but we also know that those times were the periods of the most growth and humility in our lives; and we now look back and say “I wouldn’t change that for anything”…not because it was easy, but because it so profoundly changed us.

The next time you have a decision to make, instead of drawing that line down the center of the page and creating a dichotomy of good and evil for yourself, consider writing down 3-5 things that are most important for you to have, see, be, do, etc and then – based on what you know – which decision seems most likely to get you closer to the things that are important to you. It doesn’t mean it will be without strife or unanticipated hardship, but it DOES mean that you will have established the buy-in for yourself which will keep you focused and dedicated to the decision.

At the end of the day, we can only ever make the best decision we can with the information we have available to us in the moment we are in.

Give yourself the freedom to break away from black and white thinking and focus on what serves your true Self. Let go of fearing the infamous “what ifs” and instead, focus on just how amazing something could  be.

Two quotes I would like to leave you with this Therapeutic Thursday.

To emphasize the point that life is only so predictable,  I will confess: One is from Nelson Mandela and one is from Winnie the Pooh. I’ll let you figure out which is which…

It always seems Impossible until it’s done”

“…always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think”

 

Thoughts on this post? I would love to hear from you. Feel free to write me below in Comments or email direct at write.with.ms@email.com

Until next time, Stay well,

MissFit

W.O.W. – SUNNY SUNDAY 07/12/2015

“Sunny” – What would a Health Blog be without some uplifting, inspirational anecdotes and mantras?

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“…Many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know”

~J.K Rowling, 2004

If you have been following MissFit for any length of time, you may already know about one or more of her guilty pleasures. Some are more justifiable than others.

However, this month’s Sunny Sunday quote is brought to you by none other than J.K Rowling, the infamous author of the magical saga series of Harry Potter.

I invite you to read that quote one more time. Regardless of your stance on the book series or on magic, let go of your judgement and read it as coming from one human to another.

Are you able to? Is it humanly possible to leave your opinions about a speaker at the door and enter into the sanctuary of their mind’s eye and assume positive intent?

Seems as though the longer we are on this planet, the harder this is to do.

Is that because we know too much? Or not enough?

Something to consider.

With movies such as Pixar’s Inside Out storming the box office, we know that not all adults are too far gone into the Adulthood Abyss – that gaping vortex that sucks up innocence and swallows memories of a simpler time.

This Sunday, as you embark on a new week, be mindful of your child-self. Note its presence. Allow yourself to accept and be grateful for its existence.

Step away from the constant chatter of social media and the glowing screen of your phone and let your mind wander. Let it visit previous lives, or future lives; let is muse on friends and lovers come and gone; let it built a castle in the sky.

Let it unapologetically consider the possibility of living the live you once imagined.

 

Stay Well,

MissFit

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W.O.W. – THERAPEUTIC THURSDAY 07/09/15

“Therapeutic” – Gain insight into your Actions [sometimes called ‘behaviors’] and how they may be functioning as a direct result of Thoughts and Feelings

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Oh Freud. We’ve loved you, we’ve laughed at you, we’ve heralded you once more, all short-lived and swaying in time with popular believes.

It’s not you, Freud, honest…It probably has something to do with our own internal turmoil . Our personal love/hate relationship with ourselves…

How Freudian of us.

Speaking of children and parents and parents trying to raise children while still mourning their own childhood, perhaps it is high time we sit back and ask ourselves – “What is the goal, here?”

As parents we are always trying to instill in our children the realization of our own vision of success and happiness.

As children, we are trying desperately to please our parents and also our friends. All the while trying to figure out who we are amongst a back splash of Media mongers.

*Phew*

It’s no wonder we have higher rates of anxiety and depression than ever before.

Perhaps, instead of lamenting everything we have done or not done or tried to do as parents, as children, or in that hybrid balancing act of being both child to our parents and adult to our children, we should just call a spade a spade. And that is exactly what Jennifer Senior does in her now famous TED talk exposing the high bar of Happiness:

On this Therapeutic Thursday, give yourself the gift of the next 19 minutes and listen.

Stay Well,

MissFit

 

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W.O.W. – THERAPEUTIC THURSDAY 05/14/15

“Therapeutic” – Gain insight into your Actions [sometimes called ‘behaviors’] and how they may be functioning as a direct result of Thoughts and Feelings

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Feeling down?

Does it seem like all of your Facebook friends are getting engaged, having adorable children, going on sweet vacations, buying homes and just generally living it up?

Don’t they work 10 hrs days like you do?

Who has time to actually MAKE everything they see on Pinterest?

Who has time to money for all of these endeavors?

What a blow.

 

If you answered “Yes” to any of the above questions – step away from the Social Media PRONTO.

!??!?!?!?!?

“but MissFit! I could not possibly survive without my beloved Facebook stalking rituals and Twitter feeds!? What if my girl/boy friend is commenting on someone else’s page? I wont know to be mad at him/her!  What if I miss Bruce Jenner updates?!?”

uh huh…

Let’s put it this way:

You

Will Survive

The stats are in.  Most people look at their phones on average every 15 mins.

Let assume you are awake for approximately 18 hrs [meaning you are sleeping about 6hrs], that means you are looking at your phone *72* times a day.

Filling your mind with hopes, dreams, and comparisons to other people. All of which leaves you feeling behind the times and like a loser who is apparently failing at life.

Now, that may be a slight exaggeration, but if you are feeling down on yourself, I honestly recommend reducing your time spent on Social Media. Statistically speaking, people use Social Media primarily to boast about themselves and their lives. When you see someone’s page, it is a skewed peek into their lives.

No one’s life is perfect. No matter who many “likes”their last Selfie got.

Take a step back.

Quite “should-ing” on yourself….”I should be doing this or that”

Decide what YOU want. What YOUR goals are.

Then use one of those 72 times you look at your phone to Google something productive that actually moves you toward that goal.

 

Stay Well,

MissFit

 

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W.O.W. – MAKE IT HAPPEN MONDAY 5/11/15

“Make it Happen” – Start off the business week with positive reinforcements, tips and tricks for bringing yourself success in your work, your wellness, and your wealth.

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“Just another Manic Monday…Wish it was Sunday..’cause that’s my fun day…”

Poor Monday. Unless you are a Federal Holiday here in the States, we REALLY do not like you.

You represent the start of the work week and, like that last douchebag we dated, you always, always, always come too quickly.

Sigh.

Seriously though, Mondays tend to be synonymous with stress and for good reason… There are those few things you need to finish up from last Friday that just didnt seem important as Happy Hour got nearer and nearer..meanwhile, plans need to be set and executed for the week.  Not to mention, if you are in any type of a Sales job, Mondays can seem especially defeating because even if you had the week of your life last Friday, you start back at ground zero on Monday.

So what gives?

Are we just supposed to accept that Mondays both suck and blow?

that was for you guys, after I dissed you up there 🙂

No!

There is another answer!

Mondays, stress and all, hold the power to help you live longer…

I am inviting Miss Kelly McGonigal  to share her theory with you all.

Take a watch and Make It Happen:

 

Stay Well,

MissFit

 

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W.O.W. – SUNNY SUNDAY 04/12/15

“Sunny” – What would a Health Blog be without some uplifting, inspirational anecdotes and mantras?

To sail is necessary, to live is not”.

 

This quote is from an anonymous ancient Roman scribe.

In case anyone is fluent in Latin –  or perhaps attended Catholic school [cringe] such as myself and knows the infamous dead language – the original quote read as:

“Navigare est necesse, vivere non est necesse”

Whatever language you prefer, the message is the same.

Its point is that, while we do not have control over whether or not we came to be on this Earth, we do have control over what we do with our time and energy once we are here.

More importantly, it’s a brief reminder that what we choose does matter and, quite frankly, if we look throughout time, even when travel was not safe or even understood, we as humans appeared to have an innate drive to explore…to be taken from the ordinary world in which we know and see something else… to be a part of something else…

I’m challenging you Misfits:

Are you doing that? Are you following your human yearning to escape the mundane every now and again?

There will never be a perfect time to get away from your daily activities…the bill paying, the packing of school lunches, the laundry…there will always be something or someone beckoning your attention.

What an incredible age in which we live that we have programs such as Google Earth, high-tech GPS devices we can strap to our wrists, and lightning fast satellite coverage to link us to the these applications at all time…

But think about it… think about the lengths to which the Explorers went…or the original Homesteaders… YEARS it would take them to get from East Coast to West Coast…YEARS it would take and crazy dangerous voyages to reach parts unknown…parts that were thought to have sea monsters and possibly lead to that conspicuous place where you would sail right off the edge of the Earth…

But somehow, we went.

We understood there is more to life than comfort and routine.

Otherwise, it is not LIVING.

You don’t have to go far. Maybe you learn to practice more Mindfulness and Meditation and get away that way. Maybe you switch the furniture in your house or take a different route to the grocery store. The point is to see something new; to put yourself in a position to be changed, to be new.

Remember, living is a VERB.

So get out there, Misfits.

And, Sail.

 

Have a Sunny Sunday!

Stay Well,

MissFit

 

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W.O.W. – TRENDING TUESDAY 04/07/15

“Trending” – Every time we turn around there is some other diet that will give us our dream body, some food we simply MUST avoid, or some piece of equipment we MUST buy… stay on top of what’s trending and get tips for thinking critically about marketing ploys.

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Many of you saw the Trending item I posted 2 weeks ago about the possibility of a brand new, recycled food source that could reduce waste and generate income. Pretty impressive.

This week’s Trending item is a bit on the lighter side.

This video is BLOWING UP YouTube right now.

Hello, treadmill delight!

As we enter the second fiscal quarter [for my financial Misfits out there] or Spring for my Misfits who live in a place with an actual change of seasons [unlike Phoenix, AZ], it is hard to believe the year is 25% over!

If you signed up for a gym in January and haven’t gone much, take a look at a few of these videos for some more inspiration.

The gym doesn’t have to be boring!

Working out doesn’t have to be something you dread. Find a way to make it fun for yourself and your spectators…

By the way: Laughing burns calories, works core muscles, and reduces anxiety…

If you are sitting at home surfing the internet or Direct TV for entertainment you are missing out.

These are real people! Doing god-knows-what on treadmills in YOUR HOMETOWNS.

So take a walk outside… people are doing this in their garages and livings rooms… get to the gym and walk a mile or pump a little iron while you are there trying to blend in [the paparazzi that you are]. At the end of it you will have burned calories and upped your odds of catching the next YouTube sensation!

Just be safe. Don’t be the guy who brings roller blades to wear on the treadmill.

MissFit is released of all liability for anyone or anything lost or damaged as a result of this article generating intense motivation to be the next YouTube sensation.

Get moving, Misfits, to the beat of your own drum or otherwise.

Just remember – tripping on a treadmill hurts, but Couches kill.

Happy Trending Tuesday,

Stay Well,

MissFit

 

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W.O.W. – THERAPEUTIC THURSDAY 03/12/15

“Therapeutic” – Gain insight into your Actions [sometimes called ‘behaviors’] and how they may be functioning as a direct result of Thoughts and Feelings

There’s a quote that says, “No one has to lose in order for you to win”.

Hmmmmm – are we sure about that?

Isn’t that sort of the whole purpose of the terminology? How can there be a winner without a loser, and vice-a-versa?

Interestingly, people often refer to our existence on Earth as a game – the Game of Life to be exact.

Why do you suppose that is?

I challenge you to consider that it’s because we have secretly [or not so secretly] decided as a culture that there ARE in fact Winners and Losers in the Game of Life.

And, let’s be honest, NO ONE wants to lose.

So what recourse do we have other than to smuggle as many resources as we can and trample over others on our way to the top? After all, there’s not room for all of us up there, right?

Just remember, being at the top and not having anyone to share it with makes you the Loser.

This Therapeutic Thursday, I challenge you to reflect on how you interact with colleagues, siblings, and anyone else with who, you may feel an inherent rivalry or competition. Decide which elements of that competitive nature help you to be a kinder, stronger, more productive member of your group. If you can’t find any…reconsider your position.

 

Stay Well,

MissFit

 

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W.O.W. – MAKE IT HAPPEN MONDAY 03/09/15

“Make it Happen” – Start off the business week with positive reinforcements, tips and tricks for helping yourself be successful in work, wellness, and wealth.

courtesy of sciencenordic.com

courtesy of sciencenordic.com

Working out with someone of a slightly higher fitness level can motivate you to perform longer and harder.

Similarly, for those who have trouble coordinating – even just asking a friend or loved one to be an accountability partner and check in daily by text or email has been shown to increase persistence [and success!] with eating healthy and staying active by up to 55%.

#noexcuses

On the other hand, the biggest time period of weight gain for most adults [post-college] is shown to be (1) starting a new job (2) casual dating.

care of boss-behavior.com

care of boss-behavior.com

The reason is because both scenarios put you in situations where you are more likely to eat out in restaurants and consume alcohol to connect with people and socially “normalize”.

Be aware of this and strive to surround yourself with people who are supportive or at least understand your healthy lifestyle so you don’t succumb to unnecessary weight added by peer pressure to those daily lunches/dates you couldn’t afford anyways.

NOW…Make it Happen this Monday!

 

Stay Well,

MissFit

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